My Wedding Suit Story: Why Queer Suits You Exists

Hey, I'm Grace (she/her), founder of Queer Suits You, and today I want to share something personal: the story of my own wedding suit. It’s not the fairytale experience you might expect, but it’s the reason Queer Suits You exists, and why I’m so committed to making sure no one else has to go through what I did.

When I started looking for my own wedding suit, I thought it would be exciting. It should have been exciting – after all, this was the outfit I’d wear to marry the love of my life. But instead of joy, what I found was stress, frustration, and disappointment.

I searched for ages to find a company that would understand me, who I am, what I wanted, and what I didn’t want. Eventually, I came across a company who I thought could help. In hindsight, there were red flags from the start. I was pressured into committing before even seeing fabrics, and asked to hand over nearly £3,000 for a two-piece suit. That’s a lot of money to spend on something that should feel right, but instead felt rushed and transactional.

From there, the process only got harder. The fabric I’d chosen went out of stock, and while that can happen, I wasn’t told for weeks. When I finally did hear, the news was delivered with no sympathy and no apology. We agreed on a replacement, but then weeks later, that fabric was suddenly in question too. By now, three months had gone by, and although my wedding was still eight months away, the constant delays left me anxious and unsettled.

When the suit finally arrived, I wish I could say I felt relief. Instead, what I felt was panic. The pocket design was wrong. The lining was wrong. The buttons clashed with the fabric. The shirt I’d ordered wasn’t the style I’d chosen. But worst of all, the fit was completely off. The jacket was too short, the shoulders didn’t sit properly, and the trousers were so tight I could barely walk in them. This wasn’t my wedding suit. This wasn’t right.

After a lot of back and forth, they agreed to remake the trousers and shirt, no resolution for the jacket. The replacements arrived with more issues - the wrong materials, black marks and pulls in the fabric, careless mistakes that left me with nothing wearable. Three thousand pounds down. Three months until the wedding. And nothing to wear.

It was gutting. But here’s the part I don’t regret: that experience lit the spark that became Queer Suits You.

While I didn’t get the suit I’d hoped for, I realised something bigger: queer people deserve better. We deserve suits that fit, that reflect who we are, that make us feel excited instead of anxious. We deserve an experience that supports us, listens to us, and champions our style - not one that pressures, dismisses, or leaves us feeling unseen.

Queer Suits You offered me the wedding suit of my dreams. A suit that fit, that had the design elements I wanted, that made me feel like me. The best thing to come from my bad experience with the other company was, I can now make sure other people never have to go through what I did.

That’s why Queer Suits You exists. So you don’t have to compromise. So you can step into your wedding day, or any big moment, feeling confident, comfortable, and celebrated.

And here’s the happy ending, below is a photo captured by the incredible Snashfolds, of me in my Queer Suits You wedding suit, and my stunning WIFE, Kate. Finally feeling confident, comfortable, and exactly like myself.